If you read my post history I been loyal to my local church for 5 years and although they did get me through rough times and some were good people for the worst part I found the experience the most stressful times and I am going to another church.
When I was lead to this church if you can even it call it that after a close call with my sister, I was greeted and thought it was good but it never felt like a church literally and I mean it. Let me explain. We don't even meet in a church, chapel, building or anything remotely except an elementary school (primary school for those UK folks) so when you walk in you don't see Scripture, Jesus pictures of this is the worst the actual place of worship and actual Christian cross. Just a cold auditorium with three rows were quite often you will miss someone because it's too spread out.
So I tried groups. Hated them all. Justin my former friend put me down where he can. Telling me I was obsessed and that I would never have a girlfriend when I would go to his Life group and it was all couples. Wanting to hang out with girls solo at that church was like pulling teeth and I now notice it was not me actually because I can see it in all the other single men there. Only the couples hang out mixed genders. The girls want to hang out together and brade each other's hair but never want to hang out with the guys. But if you are a single guys a married or single guy will bust your chops to hang with you till the end of time but to want to get a girl to hang just as simple "platonic" you have a better chance of winning the lottery than ever getting them to even getting a simple walk across the street with them.
So past that drama we did practically no church activities blaming excuses like people are traveling all year around like people are traveling for the summer which is true but not everyone at once to it's the fall they are traveling to it's Halloween family's are away trick and treating. Too it's thanksgiving and Christmas holiday. They did have a November big dinner but they no longer did the summer one in the park post pandemic. The pathetic hangs in the park were not even spiritual so not only did we not worship or fellowship basically it was just an exclusive clique club of the same regulars just chit chatting and kids playing. No new people. Just the same boring couples every month until I stopped going then they stopped doing it due to lack of interest.
December last year my lowest I randomly meet Madison at the coffee shop with my not so friend David who asks to find a church. I recommend this church to her about how I made great friends as she moved from San Diego not knowing anyone. Days later at a Christmas party I hear that she is coming to our church. I see Madison attending once at our service in December.Then after that I am so low then inspired by an Tiktok influencer in January I come back to the church stronger.
Things go good. I think my friendship with Justin is better. I join a Tuesday group only a few blocks from home. I am also part of a Thursday group for a couple of years I am close with. Things are good then they fall apart after I am baptized.
I get closer to Madison after she only one time shows up for prayer night at the church office. She supports me basically only my messages never once by a simple call. As I will also say single women at that church even if you get their digits which is a chore and a half they will never call you only text you. You'll be pulling teeth to the end of time they will only call other girls never call even if you're ready to jump off a bridge literally but other guys unless they are married simple as that. Men married or single will call you and also text you.
So then when Justin uninvited me to his retreat the only people that gave a damn to actually call and text meme again was Tim and Alice both married people. Otherwise crickets my so-called single women friends.
Now let's get to the present as this trauma dumping can go one another chapter. I was even more depressed because I was going to my Tuesday and Wednesday prayer groups they're basically ghost towns empty seats where only the host show up. Kicked out of Wednesday and Wednesday group thanks to a former friend cuz I was once again not deep enough and I was supposed to be part of a Thursday group and a so-called Tuesday group when no one shows up and a pathetic prayer group where it's all empty chairs and just two people leaders.
So home no I'm stressed at home my mother gets stressing on my whole family gets stressed at home I kiss you invites me to her Cafe that she owns stay there Friday and then she invited me to a game night that they have another church I end up going and I see how these women there and some men there that go to the church was so positive and happy compared to the church I go to now but they seem so miserable and not happy. So happy that singing they laugh at every little thing they actually talk to me and listen to me communicate and care about me and I just met them and even their happy they talk to this guy and they're inviting him to things and they just met him meanwhile they are close friends with a guy my age and they actually plan trips meanwhile I didn't even get a simple coffee hang you are so called female friends. Also they don't even know him meanwhile at my church you got to be able to be pulling teeth out with anyone. Basically we are there playing games so nearly 1:00 in the morning which is crazy compared to my church where we only play games with aesthetic one hour or so end up leaving at 9:00 pm.
My old church now whenever I try to even talk to people to hang out with that never mind men but even my so-called friend like Madison or anyone else they never have time to even talk to me they'll end up talking to someone other woman and have a 10 minute conversations but when it's my time to talk to them even if I say this is important Madison I need to talk to you feel say a few words I'll say I have to leave I have to leave I have to leave me while I'm sitting there saying this is very important then she'll end up walking away and talking to someone else with 10 minutes and that's the stupid sorry excuse me I don't go for it it's not just me everyone else saying they have to leave and I don't believe that no more.
So I actually check the Instagram page of the church and I see how happy and I see it's actually a church with a building and a cross and I just see how happy everyone is at that church and I say you know what I feel like I'm going to actually switch over this church and what's great about it is the service starts at 4:30 so I can actually go to both services but actually I think he's going to commit to this church and it just seems like a much more joyful place to go into this place I'm going to now. Ulta great about it many people from this Cafe if I go to also for the church it's only two blocks away and Patricia also works at the cafe and also worked with this other church too. So I can here at this new church and I could also see her at the cafe so it both works out both ways.
Anyway they have a Wednesday prayer service and a Sunday service in the in the afternoon I'm going to try the Wednesday prayer service this Wednesday I'm going to attend the Sunday service and I'm not going to go Sunday morning at my old church and I'm going to see how it is but the way it's looking I'm going to drop my old church like a hot potato for good.
When I was lead to this church if you can even it call it that after a close call with my sister, I was greeted and thought it was good but it never felt like a church literally and I mean it. Let me explain. We don't even meet in a church, chapel, building or anything remotely except an elementary school (primary school for those UK folks) so when you walk in you don't see Scripture, Jesus pictures of this is the worst the actual place of worship and actual Christian cross. Just a cold auditorium with three rows were quite often you will miss someone because it's too spread out.
So I tried groups. Hated them all. Justin my former friend put me down where he can. Telling me I was obsessed and that I would never have a girlfriend when I would go to his Life group and it was all couples. Wanting to hang out with girls solo at that church was like pulling teeth and I now notice it was not me actually because I can see it in all the other single men there. Only the couples hang out mixed genders. The girls want to hang out together and brade each other's hair but never want to hang out with the guys. But if you are a single guys a married or single guy will bust your chops to hang with you till the end of time but to want to get a girl to hang just as simple "platonic" you have a better chance of winning the lottery than ever getting them to even getting a simple walk across the street with them.
So past that drama we did practically no church activities blaming excuses like people are traveling all year around like people are traveling for the summer which is true but not everyone at once to it's the fall they are traveling to it's Halloween family's are away trick and treating. Too it's thanksgiving and Christmas holiday. They did have a November big dinner but they no longer did the summer one in the park post pandemic. The pathetic hangs in the park were not even spiritual so not only did we not worship or fellowship basically it was just an exclusive clique club of the same regulars just chit chatting and kids playing. No new people. Just the same boring couples every month until I stopped going then they stopped doing it due to lack of interest.
December last year my lowest I randomly meet Madison at the coffee shop with my not so friend David who asks to find a church. I recommend this church to her about how I made great friends as she moved from San Diego not knowing anyone. Days later at a Christmas party I hear that she is coming to our church. I see Madison attending once at our service in December.Then after that I am so low then inspired by an Tiktok influencer in January I come back to the church stronger.
Things go good. I think my friendship with Justin is better. I join a Tuesday group only a few blocks from home. I am also part of a Thursday group for a couple of years I am close with. Things are good then they fall apart after I am baptized.
I get closer to Madison after she only one time shows up for prayer night at the church office. She supports me basically only my messages never once by a simple call. As I will also say single women at that church even if you get their digits which is a chore and a half they will never call you only text you. You'll be pulling teeth to the end of time they will only call other girls never call even if you're ready to jump off a bridge literally but other guys unless they are married simple as that. Men married or single will call you and also text you.
So then when Justin uninvited me to his retreat the only people that gave a damn to actually call and text meme again was Tim and Alice both married people. Otherwise crickets my so-called single women friends.
Now let's get to the present as this trauma dumping can go one another chapter. I was even more depressed because I was going to my Tuesday and Wednesday prayer groups they're basically ghost towns empty seats where only the host show up. Kicked out of Wednesday and Wednesday group thanks to a former friend cuz I was once again not deep enough and I was supposed to be part of a Thursday group and a so-called Tuesday group when no one shows up and a pathetic prayer group where it's all empty chairs and just two people leaders.
So home no I'm stressed at home my mother gets stressing on my whole family gets stressed at home I kiss you invites me to her Cafe that she owns stay there Friday and then she invited me to a game night that they have another church I end up going and I see how these women there and some men there that go to the church was so positive and happy compared to the church I go to now but they seem so miserable and not happy. So happy that singing they laugh at every little thing they actually talk to me and listen to me communicate and care about me and I just met them and even their happy they talk to this guy and they're inviting him to things and they just met him meanwhile they are close friends with a guy my age and they actually plan trips meanwhile I didn't even get a simple coffee hang you are so called female friends. Also they don't even know him meanwhile at my church you got to be able to be pulling teeth out with anyone. Basically we are there playing games so nearly 1:00 in the morning which is crazy compared to my church where we only play games with aesthetic one hour or so end up leaving at 9:00 pm.
My old church now whenever I try to even talk to people to hang out with that never mind men but even my so-called friend like Madison or anyone else they never have time to even talk to me they'll end up talking to someone other woman and have a 10 minute conversations but when it's my time to talk to them even if I say this is important Madison I need to talk to you feel say a few words I'll say I have to leave I have to leave I have to leave me while I'm sitting there saying this is very important then she'll end up walking away and talking to someone else with 10 minutes and that's the stupid sorry excuse me I don't go for it it's not just me everyone else saying they have to leave and I don't believe that no more.
So I actually check the Instagram page of the church and I see how happy and I see it's actually a church with a building and a cross and I just see how happy everyone is at that church and I say you know what I feel like I'm going to actually switch over this church and what's great about it is the service starts at 4:30 so I can actually go to both services but actually I think he's going to commit to this church and it just seems like a much more joyful place to go into this place I'm going to now. Ulta great about it many people from this Cafe if I go to also for the church it's only two blocks away and Patricia also works at the cafe and also worked with this other church too. So I can here at this new church and I could also see her at the cafe so it both works out both ways.
Anyway they have a Wednesday prayer service and a Sunday service in the in the afternoon I'm going to try the Wednesday prayer service this Wednesday I'm going to attend the Sunday service and I'm not going to go Sunday morning at my old church and I'm going to see how it is but the way it's looking I'm going to drop my old church like a hot potato for good.